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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47751 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Fri, 20 January 2012 14:19   |
 libby.gorman
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So sorry to hear this news! I hope a new way to have a bell ringing "home" opens up to you (or that the N.A. crew comes crawling for forgiveness...), and in the meantime, I hope you feel better!
Libby
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47754 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Fri, 20 January 2012 15:07 |
b_twin_1
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Lots of HUGS, CHOCOLATE and HELLHOUND CUDDLES heading your way.
You did the right thing.
I've got a plan so cunning you could put a tail on it and call it a weasel ~ Blackadder
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47758 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Fri, 20 January 2012 15:45 |
kstevensxyz
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I'm so sorry to hear this, but I'm so glad I got to participate in the auction. I wish you could have seen my daughter's face when she opened her *signed and doodled* present to offset some of the sadness. I know the point of the auction was supposed to be support for the bells, but for some of us it was... Robin McKinley!
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47761 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Fri, 20 January 2012 16:29 |
Aaron
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The next time you hear the local bells I want you to listen carefully. If you think back to how they sounded when you first heard them you should be able to hear a little more tolerance, an improvement in their determination to show up and ring even on a bad day, a greater degree of care for the nurture of new ringers, and a thousand small things that you did right while you were there, a thousand more that you helped others do right, and, just possibly, a thousand beyond that that the people still ringing will be inspired to do right in the future because you were there.
The things you put into those bells are still there and they are the better for it. When you listen, don't listen to the echoes of your parting, listen to the joy, and sweat, and care that you put there and which still rings out.
It is still a joyful noise.
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47789 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Sat, 21 January 2012 20:47 |
claning
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I love what Aaron said.
Yes, politics rears its ugly head.
I suppose they could have thought that your gift was an opening wedge and would result in, sometime down the road, your throwing your weight around to "make" them do things differently because You Gave Them Lotsa Money. Truth to tell, I've encountered donors like that. (What part of the word "give" did they not understand, I always wonder.)
Of course you would not do that, so: Sigh.
One of my life lessons has been: if other people persist in being stupid after having their stupidity pointed out to them -- then let them.
Hugs, roses, chocolate and doggy snuffles (or however sight hounds express their affection: with cats, it's forehead bumps).
O Chris Laning <claning@igc.org> - Davis, California
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47805 is a reply to message #47789 ] |
Sun, 22 January 2012 16:48 |
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Robin
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Claning wrote:
I suppose they could have thought that your gift was an opening wedge and would result in, sometime down the road, your throwing your weight around to "make" them do things differently because You Gave Them Lotsa Money. Truth to tell, I've encountered donors like that. (What part of the word "give" did they not understand, I always wonder.)
::Blinks::
This had never occurred to me . . . but . . . it would totally fit the personalities involved. This is all, after all, about POWER, and money is POWER. Golly.
By the way, one of the approaches the admin is using to berate me is that by pulling my money in this selfish way (I wanted the six-inch bronze plaque, you know) I am FORCING the rest of band TO MAKE UP MY SHORTFALL. Make up your minds guys, you can't have it both ways. Well, you can't have it EITHER way any more--I quit. You may have noticed . . .
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47818 is a reply to message #47709 ] |
Sun, 22 January 2012 21:10 |
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Oh dear sweet ghods. I am so sorry. And yeah, that response to you is a very obvious ChangeBackNow! message.
Sometimes I do not like people. (Have been through this sort of thing.) Much sympathy. And roses. And G&B. And champagne - the good stuff.
(Sorry for the belated comment; have been having a more-than-usualo CFS-fibro-flare-Thing. Lots of balls get dropped when that happens. *wry*)
| katinseattle wrote on Thu, 19 January 2012 19:30 |
New Arcadia wouldn't accept the money because they disapproved of the way you'd raised it? It sounds like you went street walking for it. I find it difficult to wrap my mind around this concept; it's easier to believe in neutrinos that get there before they started. I guess I'm too much a materialistic American.
My heart is bleeding for you right now. But New Arcadia doesn't deserve you. So there.
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Edited to add:
Am joining the "doodles in 2017" crowd, and changing my doodle request, if bells are... problematic now. Bats by themselves are fine. Or hellhounds. Or whatever you feel like doing.
All of that. When I first read your post, I was literally speechless. It just... it makes no *sense*.
--glindanearseattle
[Updated on: Sun, 22 January 2012 21:19]
Still will I harvest beauty where it grows... -- Edna St. Vincent Millay
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47826 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Mon, 23 January 2012 05:17 |
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KatydidNL
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The whole thing just does seem baffling. In that horrible-baffling way, not the bemusing "isn't that odd" way. Isn't it bizarre how people can block own best interests, and then remain completely and totally oblivious to how they are getting in their own way? It's like they build a wall in front of their own feet and then complain about how that wall keeps them from doing whatever they want to do.
I admire your strength and wisdom in knowing when you need to just let things go; and I wish you healing as you go through the process of accepting the changes that decision has brought into your life.
In any case, as so many others here have said, you are wonderful and we support you! Keep writing, knitting, singing (when you can again), spending time with people who bring you energy rather than suck it out of you, hurtling hellhounds, reading, eating chocolate and drinking tea, and let the rest of the nonsense be what it is -- nonsense. That you don't need to be involved with.
Sending virtual hugs!
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47838 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Mon, 23 January 2012 11:57 |
lorelibrarian
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That is really frelling puzzling and sad. I would not be surprised if it *was* a fear of power shifting that led them to do that; I really can't think of anything objectionable about doodles. Other than them (and the artist) being entirely TOO AWESOME for humanity.
*sends virtual home made brandied cherries* The real ones are going to need to be eaten soon, they've been brandying for nine months.
I am curious though: does the church you rang at have a vicar and a PCC, and if so, do they know anything about this rejected money strangeness?
Because *I* cannot think of a Church of England vicar who would not claw the money out of your hands in five seconds flat for their bell fund or roof fund or whatever. (I'm related to several) Vicars, that is, not bell funds.
Only in silence the word,
only in dark the light,
only in dying life:
bright the hawk's flight
on the empty sky.
—The Creation of Éa,
Ursula K LeGuin
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47844 is a reply to message #47841 ] |
Mon, 23 January 2012 17:34 |
lorelibrarian
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Do not shuffle your feets! You might put more wear on the all stars.
If hinky stuff is going on in one group that's connected to a church, the vicar and PCC really need to know, and everyone hgetting the letter gets the same level of info, which can cut down on damaging/inaccurate guff.
(Turning down free funding is *very* hinky) It was am amzaing amount of money to raise, and you did it all with yourself (your art) so it wasn't just money, it was time, and love and awesomeness.
Which you probably know, so I should stop babbling and go read Pegasus again. I got a Kindle for Christmas, you were the first living author I looked up on there, btw. 
Only in silence the word,
only in dark the light,
only in dying life:
bright the hawk's flight
on the empty sky.
—The Creation of Éa,
Ursula K LeGuin
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47856 is a reply to message #47837 ] |
Tue, 24 January 2012 01:30 |
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| jmeadows wrote on Mon, 23 January 2012 10:55 |
| L.R.K. wrote on Sun, 22 January 2012 17:53 |
Also - bronze? Far too modest of you - you should have asked for something better.  I'm thinking gold with inlays of diamond - in the form of hellhounds and/or roses maybe?
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Gold hellhounds (with diamond collars) holding crystal roses in their teeth? Oh, and the hellhounds' eyes should be gemstones, too. What color are the boys' eyes, Robin? We need to make sure we get this right. . . .
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Many jewelers use sapphires for the eyes. (They don't look blue, just nice and dark.) Some use diamonds, but they give the dogs that unfortunate Little Orphan Annie look . . . The roses, of course, should be rose quartz.
"The point of books is to have way too many but to always feel you never have enough . . . " Louise Erdrich
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| Re: I am not looking forward to writing this post [message #47956 is a reply to message #47691 ] |
Sun, 29 January 2012 04:04 |
anef
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Just adding my voice to the general chorus of bafflement. These people are BONKERS! It sounds as though you have made the right decision, and I hope that things get a lot less stressful.
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That is very sad news. It reminds me of the time I had to "break up" with a friend I'd had for a very long time, but the friendship had become toxic and unhealthy. It was the right thing to do, but I still laid in bed and wept many nights after it. Loss is always very difficult, even when it's the healthy choice to make. I'm glad you have other bell activities and other bell options for your future, but I'm sure it won't be quite the same as YOUR bells 
